Monday, November 5, 2018

5 Ways to Reset Your Marriage

Feeling alone in your marriage? Are you stuck in a box that is glued shut with no way out? Can't remember the last time you went on a date? Can't remember the last time you had sex? Can't remember the last time you felt loved in your marriage? 

If you answered yes to at least 3 of these questions above, then maybe it's time for you to reset your marriage. Sometimes life take a toll on everyone and it can be a little too much. You don't have time for this. You don't have time for that. You just want to relax and blink your eyes so it can all go away and go back to things as they were in the beginning. Sorry sweetie, life doesn't work that way. You have to work for what you want and if you want your marriage to be rejuvenated, then hopefully these tips will help you rest your marriage. 


1) I Love You! 
When was the last time you told him that you love him? When was the last time he told you that he loves you? Those three words are very powerful and can mean a lot. It doesn't have to be a special moment for you to tell him that you love him. DO IT NOW! 

2) Make Time For Each Other. 
Put it on the calendar. Put sticky notes around in normal areas in the house. Set reminders. You both have to make time for each other. Nothing is more important than your marriage. Remember your vows?

3) Limit Your Social Media? 
Yeah, we know EVERYBODY is on social media. We understand that. Social media is starting to take control of a lot of lives. But it doesn't have to with yours. When you are your husband are together, don't get on social media. Facebook/Twitter/Instagram can wait. Trust me!!!

4) Communicate 101. 
That's the beginning level. It's not hard to do. Talking to your spouse should not be hard to do. Communicating with your husband should take an act of Congress to do. Let him know that you need to talk to him. Don't talk at him, talk to him.

5) Pray Together. 
A family that prays together, stays together right? When was the last time you prayed for your marriage? When was the last time you and your husband prayed together? God must be the foundation of your marriage. He ordained it right? So why not include him?

Make it last forever!!!

Sunday, November 4, 2018

Love Letters

Do you all remember when we were in elementary school we, as girls, were sometimes excited to get the "love letter" from the cute boy in class saying "do you like me? Circle yes or no"?  I mean back then it was innocent fun and sometimes we wouldn't get in trouble about it. Hey, maybe some of you are married now to that one boy that sent that "love letter" to you back then. Awwwww, that's cute and sweet at the same 

But what about a love letter while being married? When was the last time you wrote a letter to your husband? When was the last time he wrote a love letter to you? When was the last time you both even told each other that you love each other? If not a love letter, but just a little note to say I love you and what he means to you? 

Sometimes the simple words are what matter most in any type of relationship. It doesn't have to be a long letter. It can simply say "I just want to say that I love you so much".  Those are the type of things that are cherished in a marriage and held on till eternity. I still have the letter/note that came with a delivery of flowers to my office where my husband said "I can't wait to marry you and I love you".  That was special to me then and it is still special to me now. 

Sometimes, we have to go back to why, what, and how we married our spouses. Write him a love letter and I'm sure you will love his reaction. 

Saturday, November 3, 2018

Fall Back...It's finally here!

Happy November wives! Talking about being a busy mom, wife, employee, singer, directress, and all that other stuff we do so well. Yeah, that was my late September and ALL of October. I'm slowly getting my life back together. Still taking a few days JUST FOR ME!!! 

Any who! Guess what's happening in the early hours of the morning...WE GET OUR HOUR BACK!!! Yep, that's right! Daylight savings time end on tomorrow. That means that hour that we had to give back in March or April of every year, we get it back. Now that also means that it will turn darker than normal (which it has already been doing so) and when you wake up in the morning, it might still be a little darker outside. It's okay. I like to call this time of the year "the make you relax season". 

So, check your time settings on all of your electronic devices. If you have the manual clocks around in the house, make sure you make the proper change to the time before going to bed tonight. 

Welcome back!! 

Wednesday, September 19, 2018

Make The Most Out of Your Mornings

Okay, ladies. Some of us are early birds and some of us are those that can have the day to start about noon. But none the less, we still have to get up in the mornings to get the kid(s) ready for school, help the hubby get ready for work, or better yet, get ready for work ourselves. But how do you make the most of your mornings or even days when there is so much to do but little time to do it? I'm glad you asked. 

Okay, let's face it, in my Maury Povich voice, YOU ARE NOT SUPER WOMAN! Okay, let's get that clear. You're not her but there are moments you can feel like her. 

I am a morning person because I like to go on and get my day started and by the end of the day, I can relax. I set my alarm to rise between 5:30 am and 6:00 am. My husband asks me the same question of why I do that even on days I don't have to work. I give him the same answer because I like getting up early and get going. Maybe one day, he will stop asking ;-) lol.  Trust me, I have a long list of things to do but I don't get up at 3:00 am or 4:00 am to start on them because I have learned how to categorize my life, with the help of my Happy Planner. So, I want to share with you how I have learned how to make the most of my mornings. 

1) No Snoozing 
I know that sometimes it's hard but if I snooze it just push time down further and then I have to jump up and my mind is all over the place. Don't hit that snooze button. If you set that alarm clock to go off at 5:00 am, get up at 5:00 am and get going. 

2) A Morning Routine 
When you get out that bed, have a routine for your morning. Meditation, exercise, getting the family ready for school and work, etc. Make the routine simple to where you won't feel tired an hour later. 

3) Shorten the To-Do List 
Easier said than done huh? Actually, no. Categorize your list by the following: Priority; Important; Not Important; Later. This will allow you to see what you are capable of doing in the hours allotted. 

4) Everyone has the same 24 hours 
Yeah, I know it feels like you don't get a full 24 hours in a day but honey you do. We all do. If you can't get everything done in that day, don't beat yourself up. It's okay. Just go back to the drawing board and make it work for you. 

5) Eat Frog?? 
Wait, what?? Mark Twain said if you eat a frog first thing in the morning that will you can go through the rest of the day knowing that the worst thing you've done is behind you. What does that mean? Don't dread over something all day. Pick yourself up and make up in your mind that you are going to have a great day after all. 

6) Prep the night before 
This is major. If you prep things the night before that you know that you will need the next morning, that can help you a lot. Fixing lunches. Getting clothes out to wear the next day. Doing a house chore. Whatever you can do, DO IT! 

7) Don't forget to drink WATER
I am guilty at going straight to the Keurig when I get my morning started but I have learned that I need to have at least 1 cup of water when I first get up. Think about it. You've slept for a few hours and your body needs the hydration from the water. Drink it up! 

Try these tips and see if they would help you with your mornings. 

I would love to hear about how you are doing. Leave us a comment and let us know! 

Wednesday, August 22, 2018

30 Ways to Romance your Husband

Marriage should never have a dull moment. Each second of the day should be something either exciting, meaningful, and educational in a marriage. Are you so busy that you don't have time to romance your husband? Well, you know the simple things don't take much effort to do, so get to it. 

30 Ways to Romance Your Husband 

1) Text "I Love You". 

2) Check on him throughout the day 

3) Make time 

4) Send an encouraging message 

5) Go on dates. 

6) Give a personal massage.

7) Show love on a regular basis.

8) Make him a priority. 

9) Pray for him and together. 

10) Show Gratitude. 

11) Give a gift. 

12) Pack a lunch and put a special note in it. 

13) Give a compliment. 

14) Show public affection. 

15) Use your imagination, sexually. 

16) R.E.S.P.E.C.T. 

17) Listen!! Don't just take in what you want to hear. 

18) Hold Hands, often! 

19) Give a hug. 

20) Spoil him.

21) Be the girlfriend! 

22) Let him be the man in the relationship. 

23) Do things that he enjoys doing. 

24) Take a trip together. 

25) Go on a movie date. 

26) Breakfast in bed. 

27) Encourage him. 

28) Surprise him.

29) Praise him in front of family, the kids, and friends. 

30) Give him a lap special! 

Try out a few of these idea to romance your husband and make him feel special, in a good way! 

Wednesday, August 15, 2018

Holding Hands Builds the Marriage

When was the last time you held hands with your spouse?
Is this important? Should I do this? 
Why is this a factor? 

I begin this post with these questions so you can see where this is going. So many hold hands. So many don't hold hands. Holding hands is part of this intimacy. Intimacy is a warm feeling in a close relationship. A marriage is a close relationship. Well, at least I hope so. 

First question: 
When was the last time you held hands with your spouse? 
If your answer is either "I don't know" or "We don't hold hands", that can be a little problem. Holding hands is as simple as saying "I love you". It doesn't have to be for a long period of time your holding hands. It can be for 5 minutes. Like Nike says, Just Do It

Second question: 
Is this important? 
Why yes it is! It brings intimacy (yep, that again). It brings electricity. It brings love. It brings comfort. This should be something mandatory just like sex. Sex is important. Also, it's fun! 

Third question: 
Should I do this? 
Yes, you both should. It will almost take you back to a kid at heart having a crush on someone and you look down at your hand and it shows you that you have a lifetime partnership with this crush! 

Forth and final question: 
Why is this a factor? 
It contributes to the result of an accomplishment of beating the odds in being married. Society doesn't look up to marriage anymore and that is a sad feeling. Marriage is ordained by God, so the only position for it is to be good. You both may be busy with life's ups and downs. But you should never be too busy where you can't hold hands with each other. 

Try it! 

It's so worth it. You have to fight for your marriage!! 

Thursday, July 26, 2018

Inspire Each Other

Many marriages find themselves going against each other instead of working with each other. That is NOT what a marriage is. 

This morning as I was typing this post, I received this message from my husband and little does he know, we are both in sync with the subject, but from different angles. The message said: If you are in a relationship and one partner is stagnant (no personal growth/professional growth/no motivation to grow, etc., is it your responsibility to motive/encourage them? Is it just simply time to leave? Or simply put What role should the motivated partner play in the scenario? 

Now, that's a lot all in one but this was my reply: I'm not going to say responsibility because it will feel as if it was being forced for the person to be better. First, it's best to sit down and talk about it together. Then, as days come and go, simply do something to inspire each to do better individually and collectively. 

Okay, it is THE BEST feeling to know that you and your husband are thinking the same thing and you two not know it until it is discussed. I'm a true sucker for a great conversation and learning. 

Married couples should inspire each other and bring out the best in each other. It's not a competition, but only a way to make your marriage the "idea" of marriage. You may do something and your husband looks at it as well she is trying to do better so I need to do better and vice-versa. Each time has its own space. You can't force him to do it when you think he needs to do it, and he can't force you to do it when he thinks you need to do it. So many marriages fail at this one little thing. It's little because we should not be focused on changing the other person but how to come together to change for the better of the marriage. 

If you have a child(ren), they are looking at you both. You should be working together to show your child(ren) that this is the kind of marriage I want when I grow up. Not, okay, the husband do his thing and the wife do her thing, and they "might" sleep in the bed together. NOPE! The meaning of the word inspire is to help someone with the ability to do something creative. Many keywords in that statement, but I will focus on the word help. Help (inspire) each other to become better. Help (inspire) each other to become one. Help (inspire) each other to make it work for the marriage. Help (inspire) each other to want more in life individually and collectively. Help (inspire) each other to be positive.