Wednesday, July 4, 2018

Happy Fourth of July

From my family to yours, have a happy and safe 4th of July. Make sure you enjoy the food, the fun, the fellowship, and most of all, your family! 

Monday, July 2, 2018

July Marriage Prayer

Say this prayer alone or with your husband. A family that prays together, stays together. 

July (Being Free)

Dear Heavenly Father. 

Thank You, for allowing me to be free. Thank You, for allowing my husband to be free. Thank You, for allowing our child(ren) to be free. You died for us all to be free. Lord, please continue to help us within our marriage to feel free and not like we are in bondage. We want to be free from all worries within our home. In You, we know that you are the only one that can help us be free. No more chains. No more abuse. No more crying. No more being hurt.

In Jesus’ name, I pray AMEN! 

Monday, June 18, 2018

Happy Father's Day!

Sorry, this is late...

#HappyFathersDay to all fathers, uncles, granddads, god-fathers, and other male role models out there! Today is your day! Enjoy it!

Saturday, June 2, 2018

Summer Activities!

So, the official day is not here just yet, but normally when Memorial Day comes, we kind of say okay, it's summer time! Here are some ideas for activities to do and still have fun...ON A BUDGET!! 

First, you MUST grab your calendar. I mean my calendar is my best friend and it is used very often. Sit down with your spouse so you both can be on the same page about different activities throughout the summer days.  Plan trips, doctor appointments, camp dates, etc. Also, have opened days so that you won't overwhelm everyone.

Secondly, create summer activities within your budget and at home. There are many local stores that have games and toys that you can purchase and have an outdoor day with the kids. Who said you have to spend hundreds on having fun? No one ever!

Thirdly, MOVIES and POPCORN! Check with your local Chamber of Commerce to see if they will be hosting any "Movies in the Park" this summer. Most of them are free or $5 maximum. If you don't want to go to a park, create a movie theatre at your home. You can purchase a projector, hang a white sheet either outside or hang one up in a room, and there you have it; your own movie screen at home. Oh yeah, don't forget the popcorn.

Academics. Now most kids don't want to hear about any academics while out for the summer, but you can make it fun. Do a math activity. Go to a local science center. A scavenger hunt regarding history facts. I mean, come on mom, you don't want to just sit the child(ren) down in front of notebook and book and say do this and that. Make it worth it.

POOL TIME!! I mean you can't have a summer without some type of swimming activity. Now, if you are fortunate to have your own pool at your home, that's great. POOL PARTY! I mean you knew that was coming. If you don't have a pool at your home, that's okay. There are many ways you can do this. Now depending on the size of your children, you can buy the small kiddie pool activity center, you know the ones that have different things to do than just sit in a pool. Or, you can purchase a large one that sits above ground for the family. But if you don't want to do that, you can load the family up and go to a waterpark. Those are FUN!!! 

Last but certainly not lease, mommy and daddy date night! Now, I know summer is all about family time but you can't leave the two most important people in the family out. Schedule a baby sitter for you and the hubby to enjoy either a weekend getaway or just a night out on the town. It's important to get time with each other in because life happens throughout the year. 

Your summer doesn't have to be based on your work schedule because we all have worked hard but we have to at our family harder. Have fun this summer. Make it count!! 

Friday, June 1, 2018

June Marriage Prayer

Say this prayer alone or with your spouse. A family that prays together, stays together. 

June (Strengthen My Husband) 

Heavenly Father, thank You for giving us another chance to get it right. Lord, I ask You to give my husband an extra dose of strength. He is a man of wisdom. He is a man of courage. He is a man that fears and seek after You oh God. He doesn't say it but sometimes I see it. He gets weak sometimes. He gets weary sometimes. He cries when no one else sees him. I don't want to see him fail. I don't want to see him get sick.  Forgive me Heavenly Father for not treating him the way I should and being that extra support that I know he needs. He is the husband that You created for me and the father you created for our child(ren). Continue to be with him. Make a way for him Lord, like only you can. 

In Jesus' name, I pray Amen!

Monday, May 28, 2018

Emotional Affair vs Physical Affair

There is a word listed in the title that we never want to hear about...AFFAIR!! But let's be real, it happens. You have two different types of affairs: emotional and physical. Temptation is real but you don't have to fall into the trap of it. Sometimes, it's just best to stay away from those "tempted thoughts and areas" to be on the safe side.

Emotional Affair 

Have you ever heard of such? Oh, YES!! 

How do you get caught up in such a thing? Well, it all starts with a simple conversation and both of you are saying things that the other person wants to hear. There's a smile. There's a text message. There's a phone call. There's an event that you all plan to be there, but not together, but together. 

Can you gain feelings for the other person throughout this type of affair? Yes, you can. You start thinking about his person, all the time. You find yourself having these butterflies for the other person that you once have for your own husband. It can even go as bad you start to think about having a life with this person and starting over. 

Can this turn into something physical? Yes, it can. It is very dangerous if it turns into something physical. 

Physical Affair 

How does a physical affair start? It can start with an emotional affair. You both talk about taking it to the next level and meet up and WHAM...the physical attraction starts. 

Can you stop it? You can stop anything that you start. Someone in the midst of this has to be the bigger person and say that this is not right! It needs to be stopped before it becomes to technical. Meaning, an STD, a pregnancy, or even worse someone gets hurts, physically, in the midst. 

Can feelings come from this? Most definitely. If it has gotten to a physical point, then the feelings are technically are already there. But, if you can stop them from going any further, then PLEASE DO!!! 

Many relationships have started through both of these. Some are even married, now. But this is something that is done every day. But you, yes you, have the power to stop it if you are in one of these types of relationship. This is not safe any way around. No one deserves this type of treatment.

If you are feeling bored, not love, or just need more attention, go to your spouse and talk to him. Tell him what you are needing and what's missing in the marriage for you.

Trust me, your marriage is worth fighting for!

Tuesday, May 22, 2018

Spousal Support is Major!

"I'll support you!" "I'm your biggest fan!" "I'm here if no one else is!" 

Being married, those are some words that we all want to hear, right? If you don't hear them, how would you feel? Upset? Sad? Depressed? Avoided? Overlooked? 

Do you have to hear these words? If you do, how would that make you feel? Happy? Joyful? Elated? Purposeful? 

Spousal support (on the end that is not dealing with money) is something every person in a marriage wants and sometimes needs. When you see or hear of spousal support, it brings you to the thought of being divorced and receiving monies from the ex-spouse. Well, that's not the case, this time.  If you and your spouse is not at the same level to better each other and support each other, then I suggest sitting down and expressing how the BOTH of you feel. Having one's support and not the other is very unbalance and it is going to be difficult to deal with. I mean, you are married to each other. You share deep moments. You see each other naked, literally. You've seen him at his best/worse and vice-versa. 

Ladies, we have to support them. Gentlemen, you have to support us. There is no okay you do it and we will both be fine with it. NO!!! Why would you want to do that? Who wants to deal with that; in a MARRIAGE? It goes both ways. Whether it is dealing with a favorite hobby, job promotion, church-related, going back to school, whatever it may be. 

Take the time out to pay attention to what each other likes and dislikes. Normally, this is something that you pay attention to BEFORE getting married, BUT, you are still learning each other AFTER you get married and years to come. 

Do it! It's worth it!