Thursday, July 12, 2012

How do you make your marriage work?

Your marriage should not be compared to other marriages.  You have to make your marriage work for you and your spouse and ONLY YOU ALL!  Just because he has guys night out and you have girls night out doesn’t mean that you all should sit around and say ok this is the new thing to try in your marriage.  It will definitely work for you because it did for me.  Sorry but marriage is not a TAG YOU’RE IT kind of situation.  A marriage is where two individuals (opposite sex) come together in the eyesight of God (because he ordained marriages) and enter into a union of spending everyday for the rest of their lives together and recognizing each other as husband and wife (with a marriage certificate filed in the local Judge of Probate records).  My grandmother use to say what may work for the geese may not work for the goose…or something along that line…lol!  But it’s true.  I would look very crazy sitting up here trying to compare my marriage to the next person.  Their rich and we’re not and I am in competition with them because I want what they have…REALLY???  What if they don’t have peace of mind?  What if they don’t have love for each other?  What if they don’t even sleep in the same room with each other?  Would I really want my marriage like that because of money/materialistic things??? Ummmm, no!

My marriage is not the best and it’s not the worse…IT’S GREAT FOR THE BOTH OF US!  We make it work for each other.  We talk, we cry, we love, we kiss, we hug, we cuddle, we are there for each other! What we do to each other we will let each other know if the other person like it or not because you don’t want to keep continuing something that the other person don’t like… no no that’s not good!  Only you and your spouse know what each other want from the other person and go from there.  A lot of marriages in today's society break up because of financial problems, communication problems, honesty, trust, lack of intimacy, and so much more.  Don’t add to the equation!  You do know that divorces in America is constantly on a rise and they are saying that new marriages won't last pass 5 years. 

What can you do to make it work?  I can’t answer that for you but I will tell you that if you don’t have God first and foremost then you may be starting off a little wrong.  Sit back and remind yourself about why you married the person you did and fallin love with them all over again.  Turn the negative into positive (yes even I know that is hard but it works…ha ha I’ve tried it).  Also, if you can’t pray together, then you pray.  Don’t just pray and ask God to change your spouse because he or she isn’tdoing this and you want them to; pray and ask God to open your eyes and change you.  I read in a book that the hard part about being a praying wife, other than the sacrifice of time, is maintaining a pure heart. It’s not going to happen over night, maybenot even in a couple of weeks or months.  Heck, it may take a year or two or three.  Who knows??? But as long as you are in it and doing it for the right reason, you will see a change come over both you and your spouse.  I am not only just talking to you all;I am talking to myself as well. 

And Jesus knew their thoughts, and said unto them, Every kingdom divided against itself is brought to desolation; and every city or house divided against itself shall not stand: Matthew 12:25 KJV

I want my marriage to stand. Wait….MY MARRIAGE IS GOING TO STAND!  It’s not easy for two individuals that just entered into a relationship that will last till death, to have a perfect relationship.  But guess what???  You both can work together to makeit perfect in your eyesight.  In the bible it tells us that there is nothing to hard for God.  So put him first in the marriage and watch how things get better and how you grow together.  God is love! 

Gotta go y’all…I’m making my marriage work!!



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