Monday, July 20, 2015

My "decluttering" process!

As we get older in life, we either do two things: Cram more on to ourselves or get rid of some things. Well, I'm in the midst of getting rid of some things and some people. I have noticed that a lot of things that I participate in and some people that I associate myself with is really not worth it.  I have been cramming so much stuff onto my schedule, I forget to rest and take care of my family because I sometimes have a problem with saying no to some people. Now I will be guilty and say that I don't sometimes have a problem saying "no" to my husband and that's not fair. So, I have decided to "declutter" my life. Many of us take on this and that and really not realize what load we have now placed on ourselves. I am a wife. I am a mother. I am a full-time employee. I am a full-time student. I am work in the church. I sing in the choir at two churches. I am a choir director. I am the choir director for the State Sunbeam choir. I am the secretary for the local District Association choir. I also sometimes direct for that choir. I am a blogger. I like to hang with friends. I love to cook. I can keep this list going and going for some time, so I'm sure you get my point.  Oh one more thing, I have up to 3 choir rehearsals in a week. With all of this, I honestly don't know how to say "no" and take time for myself. But I have started to realize if I don't value my time, no one else will.

But sometimes, I have to keep my mind and body going. I think I am so tuned to always being on the go, that when I do stop and sit still, I'm uncomfortable.  Now don't get me wrong, I do have some free days during the week and on the weekend and I relax then. But I think those come "every blue moon". 

My process actually started out with my immediate family. I sat down with my husband and asked him what he wanted from me and what type of wife that he wants me to be.  Now this does not mean being a slave, but it means being submissive to my husband. That is something us wives have a hard time doing, being submissive. Then I sat down with my son and asked him what is it that he wanted from me. Quite interesting conversations. Now, some would stop there because, within those two, that can be a full day of work. But I did not stop there.  I then went on to write down a list of things that I am constantly involved in. Boy was that list long!! I did not list it in any type of priority, I just listed them.  Then I gave a description of what my position is in that duty. After that, I then placed numbers by them of importance. It was kind of difficult because anything I do, is important to me. But after taking two days (honestly) in deciding what I was going to cut from my list, was not an easy task. Then the funny thing was, one of the items I cut from my list, I had 3 people call me to ask me to help out or do something in that area. I laughed at it, but I stood focus on what I had just told my family and myself of what I was going to do, declutter my life. 

I know this is something won't improve overnight but as long as I stick to it, it will get better along the way. As I stated above if I don't take time out for myself, then no one else will. 

Stay tuned for more...

Until next time, 



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