Wednesday, November 18, 2015

Day 18 - Thankful for the Village!

Does it takes a village to raise a child...YES IT DOES!  Parenting is definitely not the easiest task in the world and you do need help. If someone tells you that they don't need help with raising their child, that is not the truth. Why do I say it's not the truth? Have you ever told someone that if you have any problems out my child(ren), you have my permission to whip them and/or punish them? Have you ever told someone to watch your child(ren) for you while you were not in their presence? There are more that I can add to this list, but I will just put the main two out there for you so you can understand where I'm going with this post. 

When I was a single mother, it was hard and tough. I honestly was not ready to be a mother at the age of 20, yet alone a single mother. I needed all of the help I could get to raise this child. I didn't mind others around helping me raise my son because they could do something that I couldn't do, give solid advice. I was a new mother. I would start to remember how I was raised when I was a child so I applied those teachings to my parenting skills. They helped a lot, but I still needed help. Of course, there was my mom, other relatives, and then later on my husband and his family.  When I was growing up, it wasn't a problem with the adults telling other adults to help with their children. I mean if I thought about trying to do something that was wrong, the adults had the right to get on my rear end just like my parents did. Then, it just made it worse when I got home. Well, guess what? The same thing goes for my household now. I tell my son all the time I have eyes everywhere. So if you do something out of place, trust me, I will find out. 

Now that I am married, it's still not easy but it's enjoyable. Why is it enjoyable? The things that I taught him when he was younger and what he is learning now, is making him into a respectful young man. Yes, he messes up. We all do. We talk to him so he can understand that hey things happen and there are slip ups in life, but you can learn from them to not do it anymore. 

To the ones that have helped and is still currently helping me raise my son, thank you. Yes, it does take village to raise a child. I'm not around my son all the time but those times when I am there, I make sure I tell him how to behave himself and get better. I don't mind other adults telling him what's right or wrong because later on if life, he can reflect back on what someone told him to help him make the right decision. 

From the beginning to now, I am thankful for the ones that have helped me raise my son into the young man that he is now. 


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