Thursday, February 16, 2017

3 Areas of Mistakes in a Marriage

“My marriage doesn’t have any problems in it.” Have you ever heard someone say something crazy like that? Or have you ever slipped up and said it to someone to try to impress them? I hope not! All marriages have their problems. All marriages have ups and downs. But what do you do to make sure these problems don’t continue? Do you sit there after time has passed and just think you have gotten over it? Do you sit and talk about the mistake and work out a solution of how not to allow the mistake to happen again?

Let’s see what the 3 areas are:

1)   Communication. This is a key area that a lot of marriages lack major. “I don’t want to talk to her because she talks at me instead of to me.” “I don’t want to talk to him because he never listens.” You have to take time to listen to each other. No person is better than the other in a marriage.  1) Never talk to each other in a heated moment. Nothing will get established.  2) There is nothing wrong with scheduling a time to talk. This helps because both of you can have undivided attention to the other person.  3) Listen! You can hear what I’m saying but are you listening. If the both of you listens, then this will never be a problem any more. Oh, and put those electronic devices down while you’re with each other. Catch it!

2)   Finances. “That’s my money so I have a right to spend what I want.” “I’m not worried about paying any bills because you only live once.” Yeah, these things are said in a marriage. But, when you partner with someone in a business, to keep the business going, you bring your funds TOGETHER to make it work. You don’t have to put all of the money together but put up the percentage that’s going to work. 1) Sit down and put ALL of the bills in front of you. FACE THE REALITY! 2) Come up with a budget that is going to work for the both of you.  3) Go back and review it every 60 days.  You don’t have to a million dollars in the bank to feel like a millionaire.

3)   Trust.  I don’t trust him because he cheated on me.” “I don’t trust her because she always be-little my manhood and not encourage me.” Where did the level drop in this area? If you can’t trust your spouse, then it’s hard to trust anyone else. Go back and see where the ball dropped in this area and pick back up where you BOTH left off.  Watch only in your area and allow your husband to watch in the area that caused the distance. Work on yourself. Don’t focus so much on what he is doing to make it right. Just make sure that you are starting to gain his trust back and then he will start to gain yours back. This can also tie in with communication!

These areas are key in any marriage and you don’t want them to continue to come up.  Make. Your. Marriage. Work! For you and your spouse only, no one else.

And above all things have fervent charity among yourselves: for charity shall cover the multitude of sins. 1 Peter 4:8 KJV

Until next time,


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