Wednesday, January 17, 2018

What is the Role of A Wife?

"Wives, submit yourself unto YOUR own husbands, as unto the Lord."   Ephesians 5:22 

Marriage and life have changed over the years since our grandparents first got married. It has been said that the wives back then didn't mind, being at home and taking good care of the home and the husband. Well, things are a little different today.  Social changes, finances, and life all brought about a change to what the wife role is in the marriage. It's not a "keeping up with the Jones or Kardashians" type matter. It's just keeping it flow for what works for the both of you.

Now the only manual I can think of that can tell you how to be a wife and what marriage truly is, is the Bible.  That is the blueprint for what God wanted marriage to be.  

1) Be a Helper to your Husband.  Ladies, you just can't leave your husband out there to do everything and expect it to be done. That's called selfishness. Being a "helpmeet" to your husband is and still God's way in a marriage. You are his companion and you should show that you will help him be a better man, father, and leader in the way that God intended for him to be. Just think about it. You help him be better.  That's a great feeling because it not only affects him but you and your child(ren) as well. When he's down, help him up. When he can't think of what to say, help him complete his statements. When he can't pray, help him come to so that he can start back praying.

2) Respect your husband. In Ephesians 5: 33, it tells the wife that she must RESPECT her husband. Truth be told, I have not honored this and I will be real about it. There have been times when words and names have come out and let's just say they have not always been so nice.  We both had to go to God and to each other and ask for forgiveness. Easy? NOPE! But it has to be done if you want God to continue to bless your marriage. Respect is not only done inside the house but outside. Especially, outside! That's when others see it.

3) Love on your husband.  Remember your vows? Whether you wrote them or stated the traditional vows. I'm sure we ALL have stated that we will love each other no matter what. Well, that love has to still be there in the really, really bad times. Yes, it's hard to love them when you want to knock their heads off. But, it is something that we must do wives.  It really is not as hard as it seems. 

4) Submit to your husband. Now, I used to think that submitting myself to my husband that I would lose myself and identity. But that is not the case. Yes, the scripture clearly states to submit yourselves to your husband. When you submit, it is helping him fulfill his responsibilities and help him become the man and leader that God created him to be. Submitting to your husband builds oneness within the marriage and it's when both of you come together to fulfill their responsibilities within the marriage to make it work. No pressure. No coercion. Just working together. Trust me, when you two come together, God will bless your marriage like never before. 

Do these with no hesitation and watch how the marriage grows stronger and get better with time.  It won't happen overnight but when the two of you come together, it will happen!


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