Monday, July 23, 2018

Finding Balance...

In marriage life, we think that he is supposed to do and like what we like and vice versa. Sorry marriage people, it doesn’t work like that. One thing that is missing in a marriage most times is BALANCE! Yep, that B word. One of the meanings of the word balance is having the right amount, not too much or too little, of any quality, which leads to harmony or evenness. Thank you  for that perfect definition of the word.

There are two words from the definition I want to focus on in this post; harmony and evenness.

First, harmony. Now, many of you know that I am a singer and I am heavily involved with music. I also direct many choirs so when I direct, I teach the harmony parts to each section (soprano, alto, and tenor) to make it all come together and sound heavenly. Well, that is the same thing the both of you should do in your marriage, bring harmony. Work together to make things work. Compromising comes from both partners in the marriage. Being divided is not something that you want in your marriage because it will become an unhealthy marriage. Unnecessary arguments will come. The separation will come. Loneliness will come. So many things will come that the devil wants to come to a marriage that God has ordained. But it doesn’t have to be that way. Sit down with each other and talk this stuff over. Some of the issues that come up in a marriage doesn’t have to turn into a mountain of a problem. Harmony is beautiful. Harmony is love. Harmony is kind. Harmony is patient. Harmony is being on one accord.

Second, evenness. This means that you and your husband is level-headed in the same direction to make the marriage work and make it better for you two and your family. Evenness is smooth. Now, not saying you won’t have bumps in the road, but just like the company that comes and level out the bumps and cracks in the roads we drive on daily, you and your husband are that company to your marriage. Smooth that thang out and get back on track to even sailing.

We all find time for what we want. You have to find time for this in your marriage. If your marriage is what you want, then fight for it. Not fighting outside, but inside. One thing that’s wrong in marriages is that the husband and wife don’t talk to each other. How can you be married to someone that you don’t want to talk to? Is that right? NO! Communication is key to anything in life, ESPECIALLY marriage! Work it out on how this is going to get done and how that is going to get done. Don’t put more pressure on the other person that you don’t want being put on you.

Make it count! Make it work! Find the balance! 


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